I am the author of LIFE INSIDE: A Memoir (Washington Square Press, 2003), and the editor of DIRT: The Quirks, Habits and Passions of Keeping House (Seal Press, 2009). My essays, articles and reviews have appeared in Newsweek, New York Times Book Review, Lilith, Body & Soul, Poets & Writers, Arts & Letters Journal, Psychoanalytic Perspectives and Many Mountains Moving. I enjoy leaving my Upper West Side apartment to teach at The Writer’s Voice of the West Side Y and Hudson Valley Writers’ Center, and have also taught at Brooklyn College and as a visiting writer at George Mason University.
I was not where I wanted to be. This was because I was out. I was out at a bar called the Narrows in Bushwick–or East Williamsburg if you’re a real estate broker. The bar is called the Narrows because the building is very narrow. But really every building in New York City is narrow. […]
“Mommy—Don’t go to work,” my two-year-old daughter said, who’d just started speaking in sentences. As I put on my jacket, she began to cry. I kissed her cheek, and said, “I’ll be home later.” The babysitter fed her, and I closed the door. I heard her sobbing as I charged down the hallway. I had […]
I once took the New York City police exam on a whim. In the suburbs of Long Island where I grew up, a large portion of high school buddies already had badges and guns by their early twenties. “Dude,” an acquaintance would say from the stool of a local tavern, “I shot my gun off […]