Comments on: Heteroflexibility

By: Nicholas

Nicholas — Tue, 27 Sep 2011 09:47:05 +0000

I admire Daphne’s opinion–and I love that term. To tell you the truth, most gays and lesbians, bi’s and tranz don’t really care anymore about the derogatory bs. Gurl puhlease. What is a good creative-journalism-nonfiction-essay without a little style and attitude? C’mon…

By: Cilla

Cilla — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 14:28:29 +0000

I admire your honesty in this blog post. I was married to a man for 15 years until he finally came clean and admitted he liked to play around (and not just other women!) Needless to say, I was very hurt and angry, and probably still am. That was 5 years ago and I still can’t seem to trust any man – even the ones who were great. I hope I can get through this. Well I know I can – I’m a strong woman with a loving family and two kids so I will have to. Keep up the great blog.

By: Denise Hotelier

Denise Hotelier — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 14:54:10 +0000

I liked the sincerity of this post. Hope you will be able to find “the one” who will love you and accept you unconditionally. Thanks for sharing your story.

By: Breathalyzer Reviews

Breathalyzer Reviews — Sun, 14 Aug 2011 14:28:42 +0000

Daphne, I can really relate to this post! As a “hetroflexible” man myself, it is a struggle on many levels to find the right woman.

Finding one who is open to a bisexual man is one thing, finding one who is willing to help him nurture those feelings and clear the confusion, and even enjoy an exciting and open sex life is even harder.

While I am not into the “trannie” aspect I do follow the pattern of finding a great women, then somehow kill the relationship after I basically shut down. It is hard to be truly open with a woman about these things, even if she says she wants to be a part of it all. It really is a viscious cycle and probably one that will require therapy to end.

Anyway, nice post and I just wanted to say that while your relationship with him ended, at least you were apparently open to it. Nice to know women like you are still out there.

By: Joseph

Joseph — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 23:14:51 +0000

Love the term heteroflexibility. Never heard that used before. Best of luck to you

By: James Bennett

James Bennett — Sun, 26 Dec 2010 09:55:27 +0000

Heav’n has no Rage, like Love to Hatred turn’d,
Nor Hell a Fury, like a Woman scorn’d.
- William Congreve, in The mourning bride, 1697

It’s a bit surprising and unsettling for me to find a “Story” which seems to wreak of such condecension, and thinly veiled transphobia.

By: spiky

spiky — Sat, 18 Dec 2010 23:33:27 +0000

hey! sorry to hear about the trouble with your ex. but there’s more than a whiff of transphobia here. many of us don’t appreciate the term “trannie,” hearing in that word a casual derogatory instead of a respectful neologism. And after just barely identifying Layla as a transgender woman without an income, you’re “sure she was planning to run a bordello out of his apartment.” Hmm. This sentiment sounds like it’s more about you than it is about her.